Dating the Precursor to Divorce

Dating is often considered the primary platform for long-term relationships, though its effectiveness is debatable. Some argue that by the time individuals decide to marry, they may have had over 25 different partners, leading to an increase in divorce rates. Research from Brigham Young University suggests that engaging in premarital sex to a certain degree could influence future relationship prospects.

In contemporary dating culture, the tendency to quickly change partners when conflicts arise is prevalent. Issues are often left unresolved, and individuals may not make efforts to reconcile or address conflicts. This pattern poses a challenge when transitioning from a history of rapidly changing partners to a commitment like marriage.

Marriage inherently involves sacrifice, compromise, and understanding, qualities that might not have been cultivated during years of avoiding conflict resolution.

In this framework, a functional system emerges, characterized by a welldefined structure, clear responsibilities, roles, and goals. This system is designed to guide individuals, ensuring that viable structures and checks and balances are in place, serving as a safety net for all family members. It is important to note that while Islam presents an ideal model, its realization is contingent upon the actions and efforts of each family member.

The second caliph of Ahmadiyya Muslim Community, Hazrat Mirza Bashiruddin Mahmood Ahmad (ra) states about marriage:

“It is our duty to see that it is duly respected and adhered to faithfully. It entails a heavy responsibility for both man and woman, but I find very few people realize it. When it is attempted, it is done on a very inadequate scale. The Islamic law has only distinguished between two sets of rules. One pertains to God Himself, and the other to our fellow beings. Marriage therefore falls into the second category and may be considered to be its chief proponent. The Islamic law has made the most of it, but there are many people that do not seem to understand [the law] fully. Neither do they try to benefit themselves by it. Their case is like that of a baby who would be quite willing to barter a precious diamond for a base coin. I wish people could only realize the importance of marriage. ”

As evident, marriage holds immense significance for a Muslim, representing a profound commitment. Within this commitment, one discovers a wealth of intellectual, emotional, and spiritual fulfillment by seeking guidance from Allah and His Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) in matters of marital and family relations. This guidance extends from the careful selection of a suitable life partner to the resolution of marital challenges.

Nabeel Mirza

Nabeel Mirza

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